Are you searching for fun things to do with your boyfriend? I know, trying to find activities you think he’ll enjoy doing can become a real dilemma. We often choose things we like doing ourselves and, for some reason, we imagine that the boyfriend will like them too!
But, of course, this isn’t always what happens and it can sometimes lead to unpleasant relationship issues.
If you’re choosing things to do with your boyfriend that aren’t really aimed at his interests, you’re facing a huge challenge! Remember, a good, healthy relationship is one that has balance and caters to the needs and wants of both people involved. You can also take a little help from your sister if she is dating for a much longer time than you. Just say I love you sister and get a few practical tips from her as well.
You should try to have a “give and take” approach to the things you do together as a couple. For example, if your guy takes you to see the latest ‘chick flick’, especially if you know he hates these types of movies, don’t groan or complain when he wants to see the new sci-fi movie that you really don’t want to see. The things to do with your boyfriend should include things he loves, too!
Choosing things to do that he’ll enjoy shouldn’t be hard if you know him well. However, if he hasn’t been your boyfriend for very long, simply ask him the types of things he likes doing the most. He’ll probably mention some things you would have never thought of on your own. You never know, this could open up a whole new world of fun activities for you as well!
Stuck For Ideas For Things To Do With Your Boyfriend?
Maybe the following couple of suggestions will get you thinking. (I’m sure you’ll be able to come with better ideas)
- There are many things to do with your boyfriend that you can both enjoy. If he likes to swim in the ocean and you’re not wild about it, make a nice picnic lunch with some of your favorite foods, and take him to the beach. He can swim while you read a novel, sunbathe, or catch up with girlfriends on your cell.
- Does he love golf or some other sport or hobby, but you’re not really interested? Why not compromise and suggest you play a fun round of mini-golf? Get your man to show you how to throw a touchdown pass, go ‘bumper bowling’ at the local alley, etc., etc…
- Perhaps he likes ‘Nascar’, but nothing bores you to tears more than watching cars circling a track over and over and over! So, why not make some snacks for you both, and while he’s doing his “thing”, you can be in the same room doing what you enjoy. Thinking ‘outside the box’ at it’s best!
Do you always have to do things with your boyfriend?
Of course, doing things with your boyfriend is what you love and cherish. However, sometimes it’s best not to do the same things together all the time, kind of living in each other’s pocket so to speak! It’s essential for a healthy relationship to develop that you both have a little private space and time away from one another.
As your relationship with your boyfriend progresses, you’ll inevitably discover that there are going to be some things that one of you enjoys doing, yet the other hates. For instance, you may love going to live concerts or to the ballet, the wrestling, or the baseball, but he intensely dislikes these kinds of outings.
What’s wrong with finding a friend or a family member to go with you to the theater or sports venue? While you’re enjoying yourself, your boyfriend can go out with his friends and do whatever interests him. Now, that’s a win-win scenario if I’ve ever seen one!
Keeping an even balance of doing things with your boyfriend, as well as pursuing your own interests and staying in touch with family and friends, is something you need to consider carefully.
Cutting yourself off from the rest of the world and doing things exclusively with your man can often lead to a high dependency relationship that can only be destructive and benefit neither you nor him.
Being able to compromise or, as stated above, making the effort to “give and take” when deciding on things to do with your boyfriend, encourages a happy and healthy relationship. But keep in mind, it’s not just a one-way street, your guy also needs to show you equal consideration as well!